Why Families Don’t Have More Children Today
It is a common belief that families don’t have very many children because the woman doesn’t want them. That follows a long tradition among men of blaming every failing of society on the influence of women, never mind the facts to the contrary. Women don’t have children simply because men don’t want them to. The truth is as simple, and deadly, as that. Throughout human history men have reveled in blaming women for everything possible, even including ships going down.
Historically, there are only two reasons women get pregnant and have children, one of them good, and the other not so good, but both of them resulting in pregnancy and children. Both of them occur as a result of men wanting children so badly they are willing to take a lot of risks to get them. Today, men simply don’t want children, for any reason, and women, as the usual enabling cooperative partners they are, are willing to go along with that as they go along with so much else.
In researching a large number of women who have the usual one or two on none children, a pattern emerges of the real reason women don’t have many children today. At first during the interviews the women would give reasons as to why they didn’t want to have children, and when asked about their husband’s views they tended to absolve him of much blame in the matter. This follows the usual practice of women, “standing by their men” no matter what.
But, when these women were questioned closer concerning the decision making process between them and their men regarding children, it became obvious that the attitude of the man was the controlling denominator. In general these “men” were ambivalent in a variety of ways that gave the woman to understand that, bottom line, they did not want children, or in any cause not very many of them. Women, being the sensitive creatures they are, easily picked up on these signals and adjusted their thinking to suit the thinking of their man.
Why, indeed, should a woman risk her life in childbirth, and sentence herself to a lifetime of servitude involved in raising a child, when the man in question didn’t want the “damned” kid to start with. A child without a loving father is a walking dead person, and any woman instinctively knows this.
Women throughout history have been distinguished by doing what male dominated societies wanted them to do. In the Indian tribe it was hoeing corn, and in the modern world it is the work of the modern world that men want done, and women do it. Men want women to do the work of this world, and hence women simply do it with fortitude and long suffering. Fact is, women simply do what “their” men want them to do, and refrain from doing what “their” men don’t want them to do. It is as simple as that, and a biological based fact that no one can effectively abrogate. So, the conclusion is, men are the problem in our low birthrate, NOT women. We have to first “fix” the men, before we worry about what women do.
Let’s move back, to complete the theorem, to the two ways that women have gotten pregnant over the span of human history: To recap, both of these ways require risk-taking on the part of a real man who wants as many children as possible, and wants them very badly. The first method of a woman getting pregnant was and sometimes still is, the man actually forcing her to get pregnant. This is the least desirable way for a man to get wanted progeny, not to speak of illegal under today’s laws, but a lot of us are here because of that fact somewhere along the line.
The better way, by far, and the more common way, is for the man to love the woman with all his heart and soul and, in effect, beg her to have all his children that God will bless her with. But note: both of these methods entail substantial risks to the man. If he forces her he may be killed by her brother, or father, or her, or in modern times, he may be arrested by the police for rape. In addition, he has to worry that the woman he has mistreated might even kill him in his sleep a self-defense weapon women have always possessed from time immemorial. Thus, uneasy lays the head of the man that forces a woman to get pregnant. Nonetheless, over historical time, despite the risks to the man, that has been a not uncommon means of women getting pregnant and rearing the man’s children.
Let’s focus on the positive. The by far better method is for the man to woo, seduce, and marry the woman and love and cherish her with all his heart and soul and, in effect, ask her to have his babies, and promise to help her raise them and care for them till death do them part. This is truly God’s intended way for us.
Today, men are refusing to engage in either of these two risky courses of action to get children because fundamentally they don’t want them. They are too cowardly to use force, and too lazy and worthless to commit to a loving relationship, that they see as a lifetime of service to a woman and the children she bears for him.
In short, today’s men are just no damn good, to put it simply, and women of all people know it better than anyone. But, perhaps because they are women, they can’t do much about it, or historically they haven’t done so. Instead, they have allowed themselves to become accomplices, and accessories before and after the fact in the murder of their, and their man’s, own children, by using one birth control method or another, all out of a misplaced deference to these worthless males that are most pitiful excuses for men. Their men are using them, and treating them like whores, and the results, societally, are predictable.
While this state of affairs has many negative repercussions, for Catholics especially, this means it is impossible to fill their need for vocations despite their prohibitions on "Artificial" methods of Birth Control.
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